Just Friends

When you break up usually one does not want to and throwing out the "friend" card does not help that other person. Usually they need a CLEAN break in order to move on. it may hurt them more in the short term but in my opinion it is takes so much longer to get over that person (if ever.) There are certain people who can make the friendship work but most of the time one (or both) hate seeing the other person with someone else even if they dont "want" them for themselves. It usually is not a very healthy relationship especially if sex was involved. It also isnt fair to your future partners to have that person sticking around and you are usually to attached at that point to get "rid" of the friendship.

What are your thoughts on the subject?
any horror stories or good stories about this?

What i did to get back into my pre preggo pants!

It is NOT easy and it had a lot of aspects to it. starting a few days after my second child, I wore a girdle! I know flattering huh!? but your body is doing a lot of the work on its own (especially if you are breast feeding) I gained 60 lbs during my pregnancy and for the baby to be healthy you only need to gain about 25 lbs depending on how much you already weighed. After 6 weeks of laying around and recovering from my labor and delivery I was sick of the way i looked and wanted to feel and look better, So i took up Pole aerobics classes and they were fun and such a GOOD workout! I saw results after the second week, not just in appearance, but also in my attitude. My husband was in boot camp and I wanted to look amazing when i went to his graduation. i knew i wouldn't be perfect (this was a year ago) but i made it to a size 5! So between the girdle, eating right, The Wii Fit, and the pole aerobics classes I made it to my goal weight! i know i was not way out of the realm of healthy weight (i did not want to go back down to my pre pregnancy weight but i wanted to fit into some of my clothes, i was 108 lbs when i go pregnant) so i was at 168 and wanted to be around 125. I am now at 120 but it took WORK this time! I have always had a small build and when i gain weight it goes to all the wrong places. I am very happy with my look right now and proud of all of the work i did to get here.

PANG

Logan loves to watch his "Pangs" (the penguins of Madagascar) I love the show it is a major step up from Thomas! :) I just wish there were more episodes lol.

But he is so cute he walks around the house walking like a penguin saying "PANG PANG PANG!" all excited and the watches intently when he knows something is going to happen saying "oh no oh no"
my son is so adorable!

NEW BLOG!

i took some of the blog posts down from this one and moved them and added some new ones. I created Controversial Studios (intimacy edition)
http://controversialstudiossa.blogspot.com/
If you have any intimacy questions or want to know about different products or need some ideas go ahead and join or if you are just curious dont be shy! :)

Be Kind

There have been so many times I feel that little tug on my heart to say something to someone i do not know or give something to someone and i don't take it! I don't know why my fear gets the best of me because every time i have done it i feel so much better and i know that i made a little difference in the world. Of course i have had people look at me funny or just walk away from me but i know that i made a tiny impact. It is sad that people who help those that they do not know are considered weird and there must be something wrong with them. In California if you wave at someone (and you are not a little kid) you get funny looks. (that is not so much in small towns or the south when i lived there) but in big cities people have this view that they live in their own little bubble and everyone on the outside is below them. You never know who needs someone and it is worth it to go through a few people who don't need it and have bad attitudes to get to that one person who NEEDS it. The person who was thinking of ending their lives, someone who has no one to help them move (and happens to live right by you and you never knew) someone who needs a crib and you are done using yours. You will never know these things if you dont open up and talk to people.

be kind
say nice things to 5 strangers today!

The countdown will start soon

My new chair design will be starting really soon! People who follow me on my blog will get a discount! I can't tell you how excited i am! I am surprised how well it is turning out and i know i would buy it and that is actually how i decided to sell it. i went to a custom furniture designer to make myself a chair and the designer liked it so much that she told me that i should market them and she will make them to order so the people ordering can make certain aspects of the chair custom. I am going through the process of patenting right now and as soon as i am done the chair will be on the market.
That is not all that i am counting down to, i am being certified to be a pole dancing instructor, i am going to focus on moms trying to lose the baby weight an wanting to feel sexy for their husbands and themselves again.
I am also starting to sew some new clothes that will also be for sale custom to fit you! :)

SEX- caution aspects of this blog may be explicit!

Get rid of the excuses. If you are married the times when you feel like saying no and making excuses those are the times when you as a couple need it! Sex is meant to be in your marriage take that time and it actually helps with the exact things you complain about. you will get better sleep, be more relaxed, and will bring you closer together emotionally and physically.
If you aren't feeling very close and that is why you don't want to do it! what gets you closer than exploring each others bodies! Do not be afraid to experiment an make it fun together, you will learn so much about each other. Also do not be scared to talk about your wants and needs in bed. communicate, 9 times out of 10 he wants to hear those things! Go to the shop together and pick out lingerie or a new toy.
GUYS girls want your opinions and want you to tell them what you want to see them in.
Have fun!
We are called to be one flesh and the missionary position is not the only one! As a Christian woman i want to be the best lover i can. Do research find different things to surprise him with.
for example- surprise him with some oral, but instead of the usual put a vibrator against your cheek! he wont know what hit him. try different lubes and toys! see what works for you! but remember it is not a replacement for him it is for you to use together!
dress up, bring a little role playing into the bedroom. you can make just about anything sexy. Be a Dr, a student, the teacher, a pirate, a zookeeper, just be out of the ordinary. :) i have a lot of costumes and love wearing them. it is easier for me to be more wild if i am not "me"
buy a new game! that way you don't have to come up with the ideas the game will tell you what to do. they are fun but make a deal that it is ok to skip things if uncomfortable.
try something new! it can be an all the time thing it doesn't have to be saved for a special occasion!
check out http://xsandoslingerie.com/ for some ideas and gifts! it is the shop i work for. we do home parties and you can just come in but you don't have to shop there i just want you to have a good relationship and get close and know it is OK!