diets

Why don’t diets work?
I think the reason for this is because of the mindset a diet gives people. The first thing that comes to mind is “what am I not able to eat.” We feel like we are confined and it makes the food we are “not allowed” to eat that much more desirable. We get on this high in the beginning and want to follow the diet to a T but as the weeks (and for some people days) go by the other foods grab our attention and it starts with one acception, then the whole diet is “ruined.”
Instead of a diet we need to concentrate on portion size. We throw away the mindset of cutting things out and focus more on how much am I eating of everything. I suggest buying plates that are portioned out. Do not keep the extras on the table and put some of it away for leftovers before you even dish out the servings, if you make more servings than the amount of people eating. Eat foods that are high in fiber because they keep you full longer.
Another thing you can do to keep yourself from over eating is finding activities for your hands to do. A lot of us start snacking while we watch TV and before we know it the whole bag of chips are gone. Keep a project near the TV that you want to work on whether it is a nail file, a paper and pen, sewing materials, crocheting needle and yarn.
I recently purchased the Wii fit plus and it is AMAZING! It keeps you accountable and helps you know if you are in the right range for your weight based on your height and you can even work out on it while you watch TV. I like doing step aerobics while I watch shows. It has tons of great activities that help you with your posture and balance along with yoga for flexibility and strength training to tone your muscles. It also has an area that you can input other activities you did throughout the day to see how many calories you are burning. I have gone on almost every day because it is a fun way to exercise in your own home. I made my own workout routine that has helped so much with my balance and coordination. You can set a reasonable goal for your weight on the Wii. It tells you how much a safe weight to gain or lose is for you for the time you set to achieve you target weight.
Those are some alternatives to diets. It is about a lifestyle change not a goal to achieve. If you do not reset your way of thinking about food you will most likely keep falling back into the same habits over and over again. Food is not an enemy and it is not a companion when you are depressed or lonely. It is not a hobby so try to stay away from it when you are bored.
Thank you and if you have any suggestions feel free to post them.

New Years Resolutions

New years resolutions are meant to be shared. Once shared they are not to be judged, looked down on, or offend. They are decisions made by that individual that they shared in order to find accountability and support. The decision is for that person making it.
I knew my new years resolution was controversial but it is a decision my husband and i have been discussing and decided together that it was a choice we wanted to make.
This year i want to find an amazing family to be a surrogate for. I have watched first hand the miracle in action. I have the ability and i love being pregnant and would love to do it for someone and give them the opportunity to have a family of their own. That is my decision and new years resolution.

Have a wonderful day and make your dreams become a reality.

MOVING

We are signing the lease tomorrow on our townhome. It is really nice 2 story/ basement(garage) townhome. I am going to go into paint right now and attempt to show you the layout! :) be right back



ok i am back... i tried to make it to scale... but it is really cool i just hope i never break a leg . a babygates are a must on all the stairs! I like making my house childproof not just for my own kids, but for when people who have kids come over they can feel at ease. I hate not being able to relax when i go somewhere because i am consantly having to chase logan around.

Lame

basically i say "lame" way too much. My husband makes fun of my for it, but i just love that word and it is better than saying the foul, ridiculous things that come out of other mouths entirely too much! :)
I hope you are all having a fantabulous day!!! If you ever need to talk anonymously to someone, wanting advice or just to vent or need prayer i am here for you! my email is usanavictoria@yahoo.com

have an amazing day!

try to make 3 people laugh today that need a smile on their face!

PS that is a picture of my friend Ashley and I doing the face from "cruel intentions" about 3 years ago :)

Money Issues

The issue isn't that we don't have money, it just is not in our hands right now! We just made a VERY long trip with our 9 month old and 2 year old from Florida to California. We drove the whole way and the kids were FABULOUS! i was so shocked at how great they did! So we are waiting for our reimbursement from the trip from the Navy, the people who do it have been on vacation so we have no choice but to wait. We also have been having problems with our old landlord, he acted completely fine until two days after he knew we were on the road. He then said that we didn't leave the house in perfect condition. When we moved in there, there were dents in the walls and the trees were a mess, the carpets were stained, the kitchen faucets was broken, the weed whacker was broken, the lawn mower had lots of issues, and the garage door never worked. We fixed or replaced everything (and even left him the brand new weed whacker.) the only thing we were unable to fix was the garage door. It was a huge pain because it POURS in Florida and i had two kids by myself i would have to get into the house so i would have to get out of the car open the garage door by hand, and i am a weakling so it took a while, and close it in the pouring rain! If you don't live in the south you wouldn't understand this rain it was so bad that you can't see through the windshield with the wipers on full blast, as soon as you step out of the car you look like you were dunked in a pool. The hardest part is that it could look completely sunny, you go into a store and come out and it is pouring! Ok, i know i got way off track.
Anyways he is saying that we did all of the damage that was already there and I would understand if he wanted to get the carpets cleaned or paint the walls, But he is wanting to charge us for the garage door which he knew didn't work and kept saying he would come and fix, and for "cleaning" by the way he is doing all of this himself and is saying he wants to charge us for what someone would charge! HE also does not want to give us our prorated rent because we "broke" our lease. We are a military family who gave him 30+ days notice and had to move! I know we eventually "should" get the money back through the legal system but who knows when that will be. But that is $1500 of our money that he has not including the amount it should cost to get the carpets cleaned and walls painted.

I just had to write this to vent. But thank you if you did read this. If you have any advice please I am all ears... or eyes.

Also take a look at the yamaclauses I have had many happy customers! a package is going out today! Thank you to all of you who have purchased them and I hope you have a Merry Christmukkah

What is the point in the negative thinking?

In almost every person i know i have heard them moan and groan about their job and how they wish they could quit! I HAVE THE PERFECT THING TO SAY TO THEM NOW! "Do it then!" They usually respond (after a lonnnng pause) "I can't"
"Well, why not. If you are that miserable and you don't enjoy it then why stay?"
"Then i will be out of work and wont be able to find another job."
"So what you are saying is that if you quit you wont be able to find a better job? Well then doesn't that mean you have the best job that is attainable right now?? Why are you complaining, you should be thrilled!"

It stumps them... you should try it! It is a different way of thinking about things that will blow you mind! People need to stop focusing on all of the negative things going on in the world. The news rarely had happy stories! When is the front page of a magazine about GOOD things? We should all celebrate what we have, and share them with others who are feeling down! We need to encourage and support and show those who we love that we are there for them! we need to love those who are hard to love and also in doing so love ourselves! You will see the more you help others the more it will build you up (as long as you do it with a joyful heart!!! )


PS. The yamaclauses are selling great on here i will post another blog about it if you want to place an order just know if i do not have them already made it can take a couple of days to make them! but they are on the next page of blogs! I am having a lot of fun making them for you and the money is really helping! I will write a blog later about money difficulty but i am still thinking positive and know that everything will work out!


Thank you for reading! Also, remember to think positive and tell 3 different people how something you appreciate about them today! :)

Guilt

I do not know a single person that Honestly does not feel any guil or shame, especially moms. I deal with it daily. I should not have fed him that? Why did i yell at him? I shouldn't need me time!
The truth is we put way too much time and effort into feeling guilty that is stresses everyone out and gives you more to feel guilty for. I am reading a great book called "The Guilt That Keeps on Giving." The author asks a question that sounds so simple but when you try to answer it, it is so hard. "What do you NOT feel guilty for?" hmmm... i put the book down, could it really be that hard to answer? We think so negatively bout ourselves that it becomes so hard to think of just a couple things we do right. I went on in the book and gave a few examples which made it a LITTLE easier to think of my own. Here is my list... it took a long time to come up with them and i copied a few from the book.
1. Making breakfast, lunch, and dinner for my boys
2. Letting my son splash in the bathtub
3. dancing with my boys everyday!
4. Singing my son to sleep
5. reading to my boys
6. Praying with them and taking them to church
7. taking me time when i am feeling over stressed
8. giving my boys vitamins every day
9. being so close to my family
10. watching the same kid movies over and over
11. playing with play dough wish my oldest
12. baking for my family
13. date nights with my hubby

those are what i could think of right now.

You try it. post the things you do not feel guilty for in the comments. and have a wonderful day!