Be Kind

There have been so many times I feel that little tug on my heart to say something to someone i do not know or give something to someone and i don't take it! I don't know why my fear gets the best of me because every time i have done it i feel so much better and i know that i made a little difference in the world. Of course i have had people look at me funny or just walk away from me but i know that i made a tiny impact. It is sad that people who help those that they do not know are considered weird and there must be something wrong with them. In California if you wave at someone (and you are not a little kid) you get funny looks. (that is not so much in small towns or the south when i lived there) but in big cities people have this view that they live in their own little bubble and everyone on the outside is below them. You never know who needs someone and it is worth it to go through a few people who don't need it and have bad attitudes to get to that one person who NEEDS it. The person who was thinking of ending their lives, someone who has no one to help them move (and happens to live right by you and you never knew) someone who needs a crib and you are done using yours. You will never know these things if you dont open up and talk to people.

be kind
say nice things to 5 strangers today!

The countdown will start soon

My new chair design will be starting really soon! People who follow me on my blog will get a discount! I can't tell you how excited i am! I am surprised how well it is turning out and i know i would buy it and that is actually how i decided to sell it. i went to a custom furniture designer to make myself a chair and the designer liked it so much that she told me that i should market them and she will make them to order so the people ordering can make certain aspects of the chair custom. I am going through the process of patenting right now and as soon as i am done the chair will be on the market.
That is not all that i am counting down to, i am being certified to be a pole dancing instructor, i am going to focus on moms trying to lose the baby weight an wanting to feel sexy for their husbands and themselves again.
I am also starting to sew some new clothes that will also be for sale custom to fit you! :)

SEX- caution aspects of this blog may be explicit!

Get rid of the excuses. If you are married the times when you feel like saying no and making excuses those are the times when you as a couple need it! Sex is meant to be in your marriage take that time and it actually helps with the exact things you complain about. you will get better sleep, be more relaxed, and will bring you closer together emotionally and physically.
If you aren't feeling very close and that is why you don't want to do it! what gets you closer than exploring each others bodies! Do not be afraid to experiment an make it fun together, you will learn so much about each other. Also do not be scared to talk about your wants and needs in bed. communicate, 9 times out of 10 he wants to hear those things! Go to the shop together and pick out lingerie or a new toy.
GUYS girls want your opinions and want you to tell them what you want to see them in.
Have fun!
We are called to be one flesh and the missionary position is not the only one! As a Christian woman i want to be the best lover i can. Do research find different things to surprise him with.
for example- surprise him with some oral, but instead of the usual put a vibrator against your cheek! he wont know what hit him. try different lubes and toys! see what works for you! but remember it is not a replacement for him it is for you to use together!
dress up, bring a little role playing into the bedroom. you can make just about anything sexy. Be a Dr, a student, the teacher, a pirate, a zookeeper, just be out of the ordinary. :) i have a lot of costumes and love wearing them. it is easier for me to be more wild if i am not "me"
buy a new game! that way you don't have to come up with the ideas the game will tell you what to do. they are fun but make a deal that it is ok to skip things if uncomfortable.
try something new! it can be an all the time thing it doesn't have to be saved for a special occasion!
check out http://xsandoslingerie.com/ for some ideas and gifts! it is the shop i work for. we do home parties and you can just come in but you don't have to shop there i just want you to have a good relationship and get close and know it is OK!

Military Life

When people say it is the life we chose so deal it hurts. You chose to have children or get into your cruddy job jet you complain to us nonstop. Your boyfriend chose to leave for a weekend and you can complain to me yet i can be sad my husband leaves for months with hardly any communication. Yes we chose this but it does not make it easy! we need friends around that are OK with that, friends that support us. i love the military life i have little to complain about but between my husbands 16 hour work days and the things he has to get done on his "days off" i feel like a single mom. i say days off loosely because lately he has been going in on those days as well. i feel sorry for him i really do and out marriage needs some days as well. he is exhausted when he gets home and i am proud of him for how much he is working and look up to him for his sacrifices for our family. it is just hard being the single parent without a car. we are trying to save up for second car right now but it is hard. i want to be able to go to work to help but with his schedule and the lack of a car or funds for childcare it is next to impossible. i am really hoping my pole dancing lessons and sales from my custom clothing and my new chair (that will launch in a couple of weeks) will help out our family!
sorry for the long rant lol i truly am a happy person!

ASA

I have joined a forum asailorsanchor.com it is a navy wives forum to meet women in your area or just discuss any topic you so well choose with women who GET IT! it can be so difficult to talk with civilians wives because there are so many things that they can not understand if not in our position. we need the support in knowing that those feelings are normal that you are feeling. They do not give you the answer we hear so many time.... "you chose that life" That does not make it and easier to be away from your spouse and basically be a single mom. It is not a place of complaining but of understanding. It has helped a lot for me and i hope it will help you.

i am so excited

i just finished the designs for my new chair! not the company i am working with is making a mock up and as soon as i approve it they will get to work on the real thing!!!! I am sooo excited you have no clue! They are called peek-a-boo pumps and they are going to be a big hit i can already tell. I have a store that already wants to sell them and i am sure i can get more when i start putting the word out there. The girl i am working with is the original one who sold the high heel chairs to Charolette Rouge and these are way better. I found a way to make them more sturdy and have 3 HIDDEN shelves in them for all your goodies you don't want people to see! Mine is going to be burgundy and tan to match my room and we are making them out of velvet and you can choose your color (some cost more than others especially if you want it to be a pattern) if you are a follower on my blog you will receive a special discount! I am still trying to figure out the cost, i am so bad with that. I am too easy going but my husband will help balance me out :)
Thank you so much

Thomas and Friends

my son Logan (2 and a half) loves Thomas and i don't mind playing with the toys or reading the books but the cartoon is just so darn boring! they just started making the faces move and are now more animated but the one voice thing really bothers me and i just don't understand how he likes it so darn much. he watched them ALL day long.
Not only is it boring but all of the engines are so mean and lazy and they never learn lol. I also someone is always "cross" because someone causes "confusion and delay," as well and being sad because they are not "useful engines" every episode is about the same darn thing. sorry i am just suffering from Thomas overload!