teen pregnancy #2

This is CRAZY but completely believable! The pressure to have sex as a teenager is unbelievable!

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More than 10,000 teenage girls and young women took part in an anonymous survey over the summer on TyraShow.com, the Web site of “The Tyra Banks Show.” Survey questions focused on sexuality, sexually transmitted diseases and teen pregnancy, as well as drinking, drugs and violence among females. Here are some findings from the survey:

* On average, girls are losing their virginity at 15 years of age.
* 14 percent of teens who are having sex say they’re doing it at school.
* 52 percent of survey respondents say they do not use protection when having sex.
* One in three says she fears having a sexually transmitted disease.
* 24 percent of teens with STDs say they still have unprotected sex.
* One in five girls says she wants to be a teen mom.
* About 50 percent acknowledge that they’ve hit someone.
* One out of three teens has tried drugs.

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I lost my virginity when i was 14 almost 15 and most of my friends did as well. IT IS THE AVERAGE AGE!!!! that means they are averaging girls who lost it at 18 and 19 in there so there are some in JR HIGH! there were a few PREGNANT 7th graders in my jr high and i don't believe everyone in that school who was having sex was pregnant! I was a teen mom and it is NOT EASY!
I luckily have never had an STD but i did not have many partners either, the guys i slept with were steady boyfriends i had for about a year before we started "sleeping" together. I am not saying it is right but i KNEW them and used protection. If you do decide to have sex BE SMART, PROTECT YOURSELF, and do not purposefully get pregnant when you are not ready. If you do not have a job that can support you both WITH benefits and you emotionally can not handle another human to take care of do not even chance it.
GUYS do you want to be connected to this girl for the rest of your life? Do you want to risk her missing a pill, or heaven forbid LYING to you about taking it!? Protect yourself as well. ALWAYS use a condom until you want a child. I know it isnt as fun but it is way sexier for a guy to care then to RISK it! if the girl complains then there is a reason and you should not be doing it with her anyways!
Thank you!

BOUNDARIES

In relationships it is very important to have a mutual respect and care for each other emotionally and physically. You should be able to talk to each other about boundaries, if not you don't know each other well enough to start dating. You need to stand up for yourself! If it helps write it out so you dint forget things, the way this should work is that you DO NOT COMPROMISE! You need to agree that the person who has the most strict boundaries is the one that you both follow! You do not compromise because that is not truly caring for yourself and that also is not respecting the other persons feeling about the subject. If the don't feel comfortable doing more then holding hands or kissing then that's as far as you go and you make it clear. If the other person tries to pressure you to do more that is NOT the relationship for you because they are not respecting your boundaries and caring for YOU, they are caring for their own WANTS! They are not needs and if someone tries to tell you "I have needs that you are not fulfilling," they are lying and being selfish. They have WANTS you are not fulfilling.
It is SO hard as a girl and I fell into that trap of longing to PLEASE him. You care for him so you go with his boundaries and what he wants and stop thinking about yourself and what you were comfortable with. You soon become numb to the things you are doing because you aren't doing them because you want them and you are ready for it. You then don't realize why that relationship isn't working and it is because there isn't respect on both sides, they don't respect you and you don't respect you! You become depressed and don't understand why. When the relationships fail you become devastated because you gave him so much of yourself.
When the next guy comes you would feel guilty to give him less then the guy before because you like the new one more so you slowly give more and more of yourself that you never wanted to give in the first place. But you are not doing it for you because YOU feel is right and how you imagined it would be it is for the guys that don't stick around forever. If the other ones didn't work out, what was the common factor? It was them being selfish and you not having self respect. We need to turn this around, realize our sexuality is our strength and if he really likes/loves us and cares for us he will understand it isn't just something we do it is something we feel and will keep with us the rest of our lives and unless he can guarantee he will be the one to marry you and isn't just wanting a good time he isn't ready for it either!
When you get married you will regret EVERYTHING you did with the guys not just the sex. Also GUYS you will regret it too and in the back of the girls mind no matter what you say she will always be a little hurt by it as well. ESPECIALLY if any of those people are still in your lives. Please be careful and respect yourself and if the other person doesn't respect you it isn't right!