Showing posts with label scared. Show all posts
Showing posts with label scared. Show all posts

Thursday, June 17, 2010

What would you do?

If you came home at 6:00 in the morning and your kids were playing in the street ALONE (1 and 2 years old) Well that is what happened to me a couple days ago.... I had a babysitter watching them from 5:20 am to a little after 6:00am. The babysitter was sleeping when I went inside and my oldest son (2 and a half) had gone upstairs and gotten my youngest out of his bed (i know because the light was on and the door was open which my one year old can not do. Also the babygates were all torn down (all 3 of them) which only my oldest can do went down to the garage opened the door (which is really loud) and went outside. They also freak out when they wake up so i know they were crying. How the babysitter did not wake up to any of that is beyond me!
Well needless to say i was TERRIFIED! they could have been hit by a car, abducted, CPS could have been called.
I went and talked to my neighbors and asked if they saw them outside and one said he left for work at 6am and they were not out there at that time so it had to of only been a few minutes that they were out there but that is still scary that she didnt hear it and things can happen in the blink of an eye!

Friday, October 30, 2009

wolf spiders


These spiders are nasty and they are in my house... i have no problem being the one to kill them, if you don't mind my screaming when i do it. The nastiest t hing about these icky creatures is they don't have webs where they put the egg sac they carry it between their legs and then when the eggs hatch the babies huddle on the momma spiders back. When the mom is harmed the babies go running in every direction. Every time this happens it grosses me out, i just go get my vacuum and finish off the babies... i really don't want more of these big guys crawling around my floor. i have been bitten by these guys and it is painful... blehhhh

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Domestic violence


people l the time wonder, "why do thy stay in the situation?" well most times it in not only physical, it is emotional (usually he way t starts) they are beat down so much on the inside they believe it is what they deserve and this man loves them. They are usually very caring individuals who a lot of ties were abused when they were younger and it is what they are used to. They see themselves the way their significant other tells them they are, they use him as a mirror. The girl protect the one person they shouldn't alienating all the people they should listen to and want to help because he tell her to.
Many times the attacker does it because he was raised hat way or he has self confidence and ego issues. instead of dealing with these issues he take it out on the one person who is head over heals in love with him. He uses her to build his self esteem and ego by belittling her.
I have had friends in these situations and it is so hard to deal with because the more you talk about the situation and try to help the less you can help and soon they are not "allowed" to see you.
This is the same for controlling situations. The guy (or girl) feel they have no control over their own life and want to prove they have control and start asking you everything you are doing, call you all the time, make you explain why you need to do those things, why you need to see those people, then start telling you where you should work, who you would see, and what you should be doing. they, a lot of times, push the issue of moving in together, buy you cars, go shopping with you and try to take up as much of your time as possible. They call even more when you are with people they don't want you with. They make you leave functions they are not at early. It is so sad watching people in these situations!
Another reason they have a hard time getting out is they are told over and over if they leave they will kill them or the next guy. Girls ho doge out a lot of times become stalked by the ex and he begins threatening future relationships ad family. He doesn't want to lose control and will fight to the death for it.
Just remember it seems a little suffocating in the beginning it only gets worse. It will slowly become more and more strangling until you feel here is no way out! If you start alienating friends and family you should evaluate the situation and ask friends whose opinions you value and be completely open with them. you should have accountability partner in an relationship so you can keep your values and morals and be able to see things clear. if there are things you cant tell that person then it is most likely wrong. If you are lying about why you are leaving something or who is calling you KNOW it is WRONG! If you leave him you may you feel you will have no one but that's because he is telling you that. There are people out there to help you!

Thursday, October 15, 2009

teen pregnancy


I know my tan lines are hot huh? i was 17 when this picture was taken. i may look happy but i was scared to death! was i going to be a good mom? i was so young and wasn't even done with high school when i became pregnant. i graduated from charter school and walked in my ceremony. i became a mom the second two lines appeared on 3 sticks. i had another person to think about.
1 in 3 girls are getting pregnant before they are 20 years old. if you make the choice to have sex when you are a teen you need to face the consequences. Over 250,000 recorded abortions took place to teens last year alone. It may seem like the easy way out at the time but the torment it will cause for years to come in your heart and mind will always eat away at you along with the physical complications which are extremely likely could cause infection, infertility, and even in some cases death. Yes you may feel the pressure and need to please your significant other at t he time and yes it is always different with this one, it wont happen to you, and you will get married. Of course this is not the case. yes you ma not gt pregnant, you may get married but it isn't for sure. don't mess around with things you aren't ready to handle. You don't get into a plane without knowing it has he possibility to crash, you are way more likely to get pregnant having "safe" sex then die in a plane crash so be even more prepared. have a plan,if you aren't a Strong enough couple to talk about a child bearing plan then you aren't ready to have sex! i was a teen mom! i chose life and am not with my baby's bio dad. he doesn't ever see his child. he would like to blame me for that but it really is all on him. i gave him plenty of chances and all he gave me were excuses. just BE CAREFUL guard your heart and body and have a plan. your body getting "ruined" and not wanting to tel your parents are not reasons to kill a baby yes think about t that child has a chance of becoming a human, f you don't interfere they will develop and eventually come out into this world and be are all living breathing human ho grows up to have a job and children of their own. you will forever e connected whether you raise them or you choose the adoption rout thee is always a bond. Also the guy is not a deciding factor in this, him asking YOU to have an abortion, is wrong, he doesn't have o deal with the emotional and physical problems the girl does it is completely selfish of him in every angle. he guy isn't as connected as you to the baby either (even in a married relationship) he will never know what it is like to have a person growing inside of him. Carrying and caring for a life is he greatest gift you can ever have! i feel really bad for those who cant.