Military Life

When people say it is the life we chose so deal it hurts. You chose to have children or get into your cruddy job jet you complain to us nonstop. Your boyfriend chose to leave for a weekend and you can complain to me yet i can be sad my husband leaves for months with hardly any communication. Yes we chose this but it does not make it easy! we need friends around that are OK with that, friends that support us. i love the military life i have little to complain about but between my husbands 16 hour work days and the things he has to get done on his "days off" i feel like a single mom. i say days off loosely because lately he has been going in on those days as well. i feel sorry for him i really do and out marriage needs some days as well. he is exhausted when he gets home and i am proud of him for how much he is working and look up to him for his sacrifices for our family. it is just hard being the single parent without a car. we are trying to save up for second car right now but it is hard. i want to be able to go to work to help but with his schedule and the lack of a car or funds for childcare it is next to impossible. i am really hoping my pole dancing lessons and sales from my custom clothing and my new chair (that will launch in a couple of weeks) will help out our family!
sorry for the long rant lol i truly am a happy person!

ASA

I have joined a forum asailorsanchor.com it is a navy wives forum to meet women in your area or just discuss any topic you so well choose with women who GET IT! it can be so difficult to talk with civilians wives because there are so many things that they can not understand if not in our position. we need the support in knowing that those feelings are normal that you are feeling. They do not give you the answer we hear so many time.... "you chose that life" That does not make it and easier to be away from your spouse and basically be a single mom. It is not a place of complaining but of understanding. It has helped a lot for me and i hope it will help you.

i am so excited

i just finished the designs for my new chair! not the company i am working with is making a mock up and as soon as i approve it they will get to work on the real thing!!!! I am sooo excited you have no clue! They are called peek-a-boo pumps and they are going to be a big hit i can already tell. I have a store that already wants to sell them and i am sure i can get more when i start putting the word out there. The girl i am working with is the original one who sold the high heel chairs to Charolette Rouge and these are way better. I found a way to make them more sturdy and have 3 HIDDEN shelves in them for all your goodies you don't want people to see! Mine is going to be burgundy and tan to match my room and we are making them out of velvet and you can choose your color (some cost more than others especially if you want it to be a pattern) if you are a follower on my blog you will receive a special discount! I am still trying to figure out the cost, i am so bad with that. I am too easy going but my husband will help balance me out :)
Thank you so much

Thomas and Friends

my son Logan (2 and a half) loves Thomas and i don't mind playing with the toys or reading the books but the cartoon is just so darn boring! they just started making the faces move and are now more animated but the one voice thing really bothers me and i just don't understand how he likes it so darn much. he watched them ALL day long.
Not only is it boring but all of the engines are so mean and lazy and they never learn lol. I also someone is always "cross" because someone causes "confusion and delay," as well and being sad because they are not "useful engines" every episode is about the same darn thing. sorry i am just suffering from Thomas overload!

teen pregnancy #2

This is CRAZY but completely believable! The pressure to have sex as a teenager is unbelievable!

**********************
More than 10,000 teenage girls and young women took part in an anonymous survey over the summer on TyraShow.com, the Web site of “The Tyra Banks Show.” Survey questions focused on sexuality, sexually transmitted diseases and teen pregnancy, as well as drinking, drugs and violence among females. Here are some findings from the survey:

* On average, girls are losing their virginity at 15 years of age.
* 14 percent of teens who are having sex say they’re doing it at school.
* 52 percent of survey respondents say they do not use protection when having sex.
* One in three says she fears having a sexually transmitted disease.
* 24 percent of teens with STDs say they still have unprotected sex.
* One in five girls says she wants to be a teen mom.
* About 50 percent acknowledge that they’ve hit someone.
* One out of three teens has tried drugs.

**************************

I lost my virginity when i was 14 almost 15 and most of my friends did as well. IT IS THE AVERAGE AGE!!!! that means they are averaging girls who lost it at 18 and 19 in there so there are some in JR HIGH! there were a few PREGNANT 7th graders in my jr high and i don't believe everyone in that school who was having sex was pregnant! I was a teen mom and it is NOT EASY!
I luckily have never had an STD but i did not have many partners either, the guys i slept with were steady boyfriends i had for about a year before we started "sleeping" together. I am not saying it is right but i KNEW them and used protection. If you do decide to have sex BE SMART, PROTECT YOURSELF, and do not purposefully get pregnant when you are not ready. If you do not have a job that can support you both WITH benefits and you emotionally can not handle another human to take care of do not even chance it.
GUYS do you want to be connected to this girl for the rest of your life? Do you want to risk her missing a pill, or heaven forbid LYING to you about taking it!? Protect yourself as well. ALWAYS use a condom until you want a child. I know it isnt as fun but it is way sexier for a guy to care then to RISK it! if the girl complains then there is a reason and you should not be doing it with her anyways!
Thank you!

Seually Exploiting Ourselves?

What is the deal with the rampage of children exploiting themselves sexually? Girls you need to realize saying NO gives you so much more power than saying yes and sending that picture. The cell phones and web cams have become a huge problem for the younger generation. It makes it so easy to get around your parents and send pictures and videos of yourself. I have been there I know it feel like you wont get caught and no one will know. He wouldn’t send it on; he will keep it to himself. That picture or video is only a few clicks away from being on a webpage or being passed on to more people. Once you send it, especially online, it opens that part of you to the world, literally. Hackers, their parents and friends can see it if they get on their computer. Do you really trust this person, do you really know him? Your body is yours and you have every right to say no, and I have said it many times, saying “no” gives YOU the upper hand. I know it doesn’t feel like it at the time but it shows that you respect yourself and RESPECT yourself enough to not send it! When you respect yourself other people see that and will respect you and envy you for having the guts to not exploit yourself.
If you already have done this it does not make you damaged. It does not give every other guy an all access pass to YOUR body. You have the power to say no, it is in there.
PARENTS, if you found out that your daughter has been doing this it may not actually be what she wanted to do. She may just not have the respect for herself that she should. Every girl is beautiful and wants to be loved but that is not love. Remind your daughters every day that they are loved and that you are there for them. Let them know that you are there for them to talk to, and if they refuse your help it does not mean that they are meaning to disrespect you or they hate you. They are teenagers and many of them find it uncool and feel they are supposed to disregard your advice. Be careful, teenage problems and choices are very often much deeper than what you are seeing on the surface.

If you have any advice or stories you would like to share feel free!

Jealousy

What is with the jealousy in the world? We are all guilty of it to one degree or another. Why dislike someone for having something you want? What do you have to do with something good happening to someone else, their world (in most cases) has nothing to do with making you feel envious. By being jealous of someone is greedy, it is like saying if I can’t have it then I don’t want them to have it either. Try being happy for them, it will feel so much better than holding on to the resentment which is only destructive. Feeling that way wont get you what you envy it will only destroy you and your relationship with that person.
If the world could just be happy for one another a lot less heart ache would circulate. Maybe she is just dating your ex because she really likes him. Their relationship now is none of your business, if you are over it then you wont care. Maybe they got a really nice house because they wanted it and could afford it, not to show you up. That ipod was something they wanted too so why shouldn’t they get it if they can afford it. Her boobs are big and your flat, so what? Everyone’s body is unique. Even if she paid for it, that was a personal choice that you could make as well. She changed her body for herself. Why do these things have to do with you?
Next time you are jealous about something stop and think about how silly you are acting. Be happy for other people or just be indifferent if it is someone you don’t like. Remember hating on someone is the same thing. You don’t talk trash about someone who isn’t worth it. You obviously have something you feel inadequate about or else you wouldn’t waste your time picking out other people’s flaws.
Try to make the world a better place. Take the envy and the hatred out of your life and tell three people something you like about them today!

Thank you for reading and have a great day!