live... laugh... love

life has taken a turn for bad... but i have to choose to live laugh and love. As now i am a single mom of two kids and my bank account keeps getting drained before i can get to the bank... i literally have nothing. but i think it is in the broken times that you find who you truly are. Yes i break down and cry and i think that is healthy and ok. I cannot pretend that life is peachy but i can choose to live in joy and choose to laugh at all of the situations in life that i can. I am not sitting around and moping i am finding things to fill my time and people to surround myself with. I have two beautiful boys that make me so happy and they love me unconditionally and i love eternally. I have learned who my true friends are through the situation as well. They called the cops for me 2 times to make sure i was safe and have surrounded me with protection. i do not want to get too in depth into what is going on but it is very bad and hard and trust me i am very proud of myself (as bad as that sounds) for how i have handled everything in this!

Is America Gving Up!

In our lives what we start out loving we end up leaving. We get so excited, our dream job calls us back, we scored an interview. You go and nail it! You got the job! A year later you are extremely miserable. The guy next to you breaths to loud. An obnoxious lady always eats the stinkiest things in the lunch room, your boss (who happens to look like a star wars creature... most likely jabba) is constantly hitting on you in subtle ways. The receptionist has the worst breath and the walls are closing in on you. The once beautiful thing when all of these didn't bother you, some of them were even, in a strange way, you liked the odd quirks!
We buy a house, a fixer upper that you think is FABULOUS! You got a great deal on it and it will cost less to do the work! You start doing the work yourself, you are loving it! you get to choose all of the aspects of the house, the carpet, the tiles, the wall color and texture, the counters and cupboards and maybe even adding in a couple of adjustments like a sunroof, some ceiling fans, a bar from the kitchen to the dining room and it will all be amazing! A month goes by, you are frustrated and complaining about all of the work you are doing and all that you have to do still. It seams like a never ending project. The thing that you were loving turned out to be your worst nightmare. You give up and hire someone, yet complain the whole time at how they aren't doing it the way you would.
We get into a relationship, butterflies seam to have taken up permanent residence in your mid section. You long to see them. Everything about them is perfect, the way they look, the way they eat, the way they breath, the way they smell, the kiss, the hugs, holding hands makes you giddy, when your phone rings your heart leaps hoping for that one name to be on the caller ID! You are so in love, some minor fights but nothing serious, you work perfect together. He pops the question she says YES! The planning starts. The big day finally gets there and everything is beautiful and wonderful! A month or two after you start your journey together the breathing is too loud, the chewing is repulsing, he smells terrible after he gets home, her breath stinks in the mornings, That's what they really look like under all of that makeup? The butterflies haven't been seen in a weak. A couple years later you are sleeping as far apart from each other as you can in the bed, your pray they aren't the one calling you, what are they going to ask of me now? Soon the D word gets thrown around more and more. then it become serious! someone gets the papers, out of hurt and anger the other signs and then it is over!

We need to realize there are positives and negatives to everything! We can't just give up on everything we don't like or bothers us!

any thoughts?

Love... a choice?

Love

Is a choice! Even when things get EXTREMELY hard you can choose to love your spouse. My husband and I have been through a TON in the 2 years we have been married.
You must, however, realize it is not letting the other person walk all over you! It is about not stooping to the level of the other person when acting stupid. As humans we ALL make mistakes, but that cannot be our excuse for making them. We must apologize for what we do and not expect other person to forgive, but you have to know they will never FORGET! Dint expect them to.
Earning trust back is another hard thing to do, but not being able to trust the other person is even harder. It is easy to get mad at the other person for not trusting you but remember that you are truly mad at yourself! Remember be tough on yourself and tender to your spouse.
You also shouldn't hold what your spouse does over their heads, it will cause both of you to resent each other.
I STRONGLY suggest doing the Love Dare to your spouse even if things are going well, but especially if you are finding it hard to do anything for or with them. It really helps you look at your relationship from a different view. The Love Dare is from the hit movie Fireproof, you Can buy the book at target or walmart or you local bookstore. You don't have to be a Christian to do it, it is the concept of all of the things in the book, they apply to all marriages. It is about true love! the purest form of love!
there however are things a spouse can do where even biblicaly it is OK to divorce such as adultery. but that also doesn't mean you cant make it work. but it is between the two of you no one else can tell you what to do.
Also you can't fall out of love! since you never fell into it to begin with. yes lust you can fall out of and that's when REAL love comes in! If love was easy we wouldn't have the divorce rate we have, you need to work at it.

Don't be another statistic when you don't have to be. You choose to love.