Friday, January 29, 2010
What is the deal with the rampage of children exploiting themselves sexually? Girls you need to realize saying NO gives you so much more power than saying yes and sending that picture. The cell phones and web cams have become a huge problem for the younger generation. It makes it so easy to get around your parents and send pictures and videos of yourself. I have been there I know it feel like you wont get caught and no one will know. He wouldn’t send it on; he will keep it to himself. That picture or video is only a few clicks away from being on a webpage or being passed on to more people. Once you send it, especially online, it opens that part of you to the world, literally. Hackers, their parents and friends can see it if they get on their computer. Do you really trust this person, do you really know him? Your body is yours and you have every right to say no, and I have said it many times, saying “no” gives YOU the upper hand. I know it doesn’t feel like it at the time but it shows that you respect yourself and RESPECT yourself enough to not send it! When you respect yourself other people see that and will respect you and envy you for having the guts to not exploit yourself.
If you already have done this it does not make you damaged. It does not give every other guy an all access pass to YOUR body. You have the power to say no, it is in there.
PARENTS, if you found out that your daughter has been doing this it may not actually be what she wanted to do. She may just not have the respect for herself that she should. Every girl is beautiful and wants to be loved but that is not love. Remind your daughters every day that they are loved and that you are there for them. Let them know that you are there for them to talk to, and if they refuse your help it does not mean that they are meaning to disrespect you or they hate you. They are teenagers and many of them find it uncool and feel they are supposed to disregard your advice. Be careful, teenage problems and choices are very often much deeper than what you are seeing on the surface.
If you have any advice or stories you would like to share feel free!